2.04.2010

To be or Not to be in Limerence

Limerence: the involuntary emotional state of intense romantic desire for another person.

Today, I was informed that one can only be "in love" with a person for a maximum of 17 months. This is according to science. Science knows best. The average length or limerence is between 3 and 6 months. Then you break up and start the cycle all over again.

For some reason, I found this knowledge comforting. And I say this as a lie in bed gnawing on a chunck of chocolate, because according to Barbara Novak, chocolate is better than sex. No, but really.

I felt a huge weight. I find Limerence exhausting. All the wishing, waiting, wanting. It is all so time consuming. "OMG, he fist bumped my should, that totally means he wants to eat my box!"
No. seriously. The uncontrollable urge to want someone to lust you back is just too much to handle. Thank God it only lasts 3 months, and thank God it is normal to lose the feeling.

The best relationship I've ever had began limerence free. There was lust, but it was not all encompassing. I did not eat, breathe, and think about this fellow 24/7. There was no pressure.

The say limerence exists purely on hope and uncertainty. Thanks a lot Prometheus.

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